Category: Mental Health

  • Sunday Reflection: Good Work on Building Barely, But Here

    Sunday Reflection: Good Work on Building Barely, But Here

    Sunday night.

    I’m feeling tired physically and mentally. Physically mostly because today was shoveling day. I spent about two and a half hours this afternoon shoveling, and earlier this morning I spent at least an hour or more doing the first round. Overall we got more than 20 inches and it’s still snowing outside. So yeah. Quite a day of snow. 

    The week felt productive.

    What?

    I shared two articles online. Recorded, edited, published them. Created images for them. Did all the SEO. 

    I also worked a lot on my Chrome extension project, which involves managing YouTube. There isn’t a very good tool in the Chrome Web Store, at least not working the way I think it should, so the objective is to create a tool that really performs. What’s interesting is that conceptually and functionally, it’s not a very difficult problem. What’s difficult is figuring out the architecture and what’s going on inside. It’s sort of mysterious black box stuff. 

    And I’m now at the point where I’m taking the project from ChatGPT over to Google antigravity. With ChatGPT, everything is slowly getting better, but it’s a lot of back and forth.

    I ask for something, get code, set it up, try it, give feedback, ask for tweaks… on and on. Just to get basic functionality sometimes takes multiple hours across multiple days. 

    What’s interesting about Antigravity is they have a working agent system that, if given the right instructions, can perform tasks autonomously without human intervention. It can write code, test it, figure out if it works, and spend two hours chasing the solution instead of me sitting here doing the back and forth.

    Big advancement in that regard. I’m damn close to solving the last stubborn piece of the extension, and I’ve been prepping the documentation so I can hand the whole thing to an agent and let it work as long as it needs to.

    Meanwhile, I can watch YouTube, take a nap, or go shovel more snow. 

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    Even more interesting is how far I got on my voice cloning project.

    Right now I’m very close to having a near perfect mirror of my voice so it actually sounds like me. The objective is: when I get done writing, instead of me having to read it, I can feed it to a folder, have it processed, and out the other side comes an audio file that’s “me” reading the entire text. I think I’m on version 12. It’s been a fascinating process. I learned new terms and what they do to a synthetic voice, including prosody, which has to do with variability in intonation. We don’t talk flat all the time. 

    On that side, things have felt clearer. I’ve finally been able to focus on something and make progress. And I also made huge ground on the Barely, But Here front, sharing more about the journey I’ve been on trying to get my feet on the ground and rebuild my life. It’s not an easy thing, particularly after what I’ve been through and what I’m still going through. Although I will say it does feel like I’m on the tail end of things. 

    I also had A good week of counseling.

    If I think back: did I mask at all this week? Yes, I did. I masked with relatives. I didn’t mask at counseling. That would be kind of stupid. And the masking doesn’t really cost me anything with relatives. It gives me space and quiet and peace, so it’s a cost worth paying. 

    If I strip away all the bits, what feels most essential and core is that I had a very positive week in the 10 hours of therapy I did last week. It’s been intensive, which is why it’s called intensive therapy. 

    So what is everything asking of me going into next week? More sharing for Barely, But Here. I’m going to create an orientation page to help people understand what it is: start here, read this, that kind of thing. Because it’s heavy stuff. People could probably read one. I don’t know if you want to read two. It’s a lot, and it takes time. But you want to point people in the right direction if they’re looking for something specific. 

    I’m also interested in seeing where antigravity takes me next week with Google. And things have felt better depression-wise.

    I don’t feel completely healed.

    I still feel a bit in survival mode.

    I’m still very frustrated about my situation.  

    This is where I’m at tonight.  

  • My Substack is back online with purpose.

    My Substack is back online with purpose.

    Starting up my dormant Substack after 15 years.

    Taking the leap at sharing online after hiding for 30 years.

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    I’ve fired up my Substack and have decided to use it as the vehicle for sharing things I’ve learned from not-fun places.

    Barely, But Here is a space for honest sharing about living with invisible depression, dissociation, and what remains after the life I spent 50+ years building fell apart.

    I share from lived experience: decades of masked mental illness, the collapse of a 22-year marriage, homelessness, unemployment, financial loss, and the slow work of starting over later in life.

    This isn’t packaged self-help or empty motivation—it’s an attempt to give language to experiences that are rarely named and often misunderstood.

    Through essays, stories, videos, and reflections, I explore mental health, identity, grief, and meaning with restraint and clarity.

    What I share comes from difficult places, but the wisdom is hard-won and real.

    If you’ve ever felt unseen, emotionally offline, or quietly overwhelmed while life kept moving, this will feel familiar.

    Subscribe if you’re looking for context and a voice that speaks from inside the experience—not above it.

    And if you know someone who might benefit from this, please share it with them.


    A reminder: I’m not a therapist.

    This is only my experience being shared. If you’re in crisis, please reach out to the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988, or visit 988lifeline.org.


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  • How Focus Music Helped Me in a Distracted World

    How Focus Music Helped Me in a Distracted World

    Focus Music and My Struggle With Concentration in a World Full of Noise

    Focusing on a single task has felt like trying to read in the middle of a concert. My mind darts from thought to thought—unfinished emails, buzzing notifications, ideas half-written and instantly forgotten. The world demands more of our attention than ever, and I found myself chronically depleted and deeply frustrated.

    It wasn’t just about being unproductive. It was emotional. The guilt of not finishing things, the anxiety of falling behind—it all added up. I tried apps, caffeine, even silence. Nothing seemed to bring that mental click I was searching for.

    Discovering MindAmend: A Personal Turning Point

    One day, after stumbling through another disjointed work session, I came across a YouTube recommendation: @MindAmend, created by Jason Lewis. I clicked. The screen faded into soft visuals. No ads. No voices. Just music—not music, really, but a soundscape.

    I let it play in the background while I tackled a small task. To my surprise, I didn’t check my phone once. My thoughts slowed. I completed my work, and even kept going. It wasn’t magic—it was the first moment in a long time when I felt centered, calm, and capable.

    What Makes MindAmend Focus Music Different?

    Hyperfocus, Ambient Electronic Soft Beats + 40Hz Gamma Isochronic Tones

    I’ve tried lo-fi playlists and nature sounds. They’re relaxing, sure, but MindAmend is different. Jason Lewis creates his tracks using isochronic tones, a form of brainwave entrainment where distinct beats pulse at specific frequencies. Unlike binaural beats, these don’t require headphones—and they work more directly.

    The sounds feel engineered to support a purpose—not just to sound good. Whether I’m writing, brainstorming, or decompressing, there’s a track that meets me where I am.

    The Science Behind the Calm: Brainwave Entrainment Explained

    Isochronic tones help the brain shift into desired states by using rhythmic, evenly spaced pulses. When listened to over time, these tones guide your brainwaves into frequencies associated with deep focus, relaxation, or creative flow. It’s like tuning your mental radio to the right channel—alpha for calm, beta for alert focus, gamma for peak concentration.

    This isn’t fringe science. Studies have shown isochronic tones can effectively modulate brainwaves and improve attention and memory.

    A 2024 neurophysiology study also demonstrated a significant finding. Isochronic tones showed a ~15% increase in attention-related EEG potential at the prefrontal cortex. This is in comparison to binaural beats.

    In another experiment, beta-frequency music significantly enhanced sustained attention, especially in participants with ADHD traits.

    Lastly, a 2025 integrative review in Frontiers in Digital Health positioned brainwave entrainment as a promising tool. It is valuable for cognitive rehabilitation and emotional regulation.

    Why It Works Like Magic for Me

    Subtle tones that don’t distract, but hold your attention just enough to anchor you in the moment.

    For me, it’s like flipping a switch. Within five minutes, I stop fidgeting. Within ten, I’m in flow.

    The YouTube comments say the same:

    “I just finished a three-hour study session.”
    “Haven’t felt this grounded in weeks.”
    “This literally saved my focus.”

    I couldn’t agree more.

    My Daily Ritual and the Emotional Impact of Sound

    I integrate focus music into my daily routine as a cornerstone of my productivity toolkit. I usually choose a task I’ve been putting off. This is writing, planning, or tackling a long article. Then, I press play on a track. Within minutes, the sounds create a steady pulse that anchors my attention.

    The effect is subtle but powerful. These tones help shift my mindset from scattered to centered. Over time, this has built up into a habit of returning to calm focus, even when external distractions pile up.

    From Overwhelm to Order: The Emotional Transformation

    Isochronic tones helped me transition from mental chaos to emotional clarity. When my mind spins from anxiety or fatigue, these soundscapes provide structure. They ground me, slow down racing thoughts, and make way for inner peace.

    What Jason Lewis Has Created Goes Beyond Music

    This isn’t ambient noise or white sound—it’s a deliberate, precise design for mental performance. Jason Lewis’s productions are clean and consistent, tailored to facilitate brainwave entrainment. His tracks focus on listener experience rather than catchy melodies. For me, they feel like mental architecture, helping me build focus from the inside out.

    Comments That Echo My Story

    Scrolling MindAmend videos, I frequently see comments that mirror my own:

    “I just finished writing eight pages while listening to this.”
    “This channel is the only way I can work through brain fog.”

    It’s humbling and inspiring to know others are finding clarity through the same sounds that help me.

    Practical Tips for Getting Started With Focus Music

    1. Select a track that matches your goal—beta-frequency for focus, alpha or theta for relaxation or creative work.
    2. Use moderately comfortable volume (not too loud), ideally with headphones or two-channel playback.
    3. Time your work—try 25‑minute blocks with 5‑minute pauses to assess how you feel.
    4. Pair it with a clean environment—minimal visual distractions amplify the effect.
    5. Reflect after each session—note what tasks went well, how your mood changed, and use that feedback.

    My Message to Anyone Struggling With Focus or Anxiety

    Sound can be a first-line tool, accessible, free via YouTube, and non-invasive. You don’t need to be an expert to benefit—just be consistent and open-minded. Even if the effect feels subtle at first, persistence helps it build and compound over time, producing calmer clarity and better focus.

    Conclusion: Healing Happens in Small, Consistent Waves of Sound

    My experience with MindAmend focus music, especially those using carefully crafted isochronic tones, has transformed how I approach work, reading, and mental rest. What began as curiosity quickly became routine, and the sense of calm, clarity, and productivity I gained motivated me to keep coming back.

    If chaos, distraction, or overwhelm rings familiar—this might help you too. Even small, incremental shifts through sound can create meaningful change. Healing and focus don’t always come in giant leaps—they often happen in steady, rhythmic waves.

  • Hello World—2025 Transparent, Fatigued Rebuild Version.

    Hello World—2025 Transparent, Fatigued Rebuild Version.

    Fifteen years is a long time. Long enough for depression to rewrite every chapter of your life, twist the narrative, and leave you questioning if you’ll ever get back to the version of yourself that once felt whole.

    Even if that baseline reality was energy–consuming, hyperaware fear, and Academy-Award–worthy masking on top of functional depression.

    So, here I am, still in the cyclic nature of depression as I write these words—still trying to right the ship, still learning how to navigate after years of drifting inside and outside the “Depression Death Star, or simply The Dark Side.”

    My last “official” full-time job ended nearly two years ago. And if I’m being honest, I haven’t felt truly content in a long, long time.

    I’ve had depression all my life. At this point, I don’t even know what life feels like without it.

    The irony? That realization is depressing in itself. Go figure.

    It’s a dark, exhausting place to be, and the weight of it is relentless. But somehow, some way, I keep going. I create. I put things out into the world, even when it feels impossible.

    And for someone who’s spent a lifetime as a neurodivergent, MDSI, INFJ, that’s nothing short of a solar eclipse miracle on the tip of the North Pole while wearing a bathing suit in January.

    Looking back, one of my biggest regrets is not chronicling the things I’ve worked on over the years. I’ve spent over a quarter of a century online, thirty years to be precise—creating, designing, building—and yet, I failed to document so much of it.

    Likewise, I didn’t catalog the process, the struggles, the breakthroughs.

    And now, I wish I had.

    How amazing would it be to scroll through a personal archive of projects, lessons, failures, wins—an entire career mapped out in real-time, across decades? 

    I do have the present moment. I’m alive. And as long as I am, I can share my work, my thoughts, my struggles. So, I’m doing that now. These words are proof.

    For the past few years, I’ve been trying to reconnect with my roots as an artist. I won a statewide crime-fighting poster contest in 5th grade culminating in a Fine Arts degree, painting concentration—and having one of my paintings added to my college’s permanent art collection.

    Back in college, I painted like a madman, pouring everything I had into my work. Then the Internet came along the year I graduated from college—1991—and design took over my life. It consumed me, swallowed me whole.

    And before I knew it, I had gone decades without making what I would truly call art.

    That’s beginning to change. Slowly.

    It’s taken time to rewire my brain, to make space for creative ideas to return after a two-year absence.

    Time to remind myself that I’m allowed to create for the sake of creation—not just for work, not just for survival.

    And now, as I rebuild, I’m weaving everything together—a website, a YouTube channel, and a podcast.

    These aren’t just separate projects; they’re pieces of the same puzzle. They’re reflections of the larger journey I’m on.

    The weirdest part? I’ve been working my ass off for two years, and yet, there’s still not much to show for it online.

    It’s the silent grind, the unseen effort, the endless trial and error.

    The results don’t always come fast. Sometimes, they don’t come at all. But that’s the gamble.

    The only thing I can do is keep showing up. Keep creating. Keep pushing toward something bigger, even if I don’t know exactly what that something is yet.

    None of us do, really.

    Every project, every idea, every dream—it’s all a leap of faith.

    The only thing that matters is having the cojones to put yourself out there and the consistency to keep delivering, keep going.

    No clue. And that’s okay.

    For now, I’m here. I’m doing the work. I’m embracing the unknown and trying my best to turn years of struggle into something meaningful.

    Here’s to whatever comes next!

    Until then, be well.