To me this is the elusive question. How do you get it all done?
With family, work, health, “downtime”, and the things I am forgetting to mention because my brain feels stretched I wonder how to get it all done? That is the question everyone seems to want the answer to. Many magazines will feature strategies and methods of how to do it and others feature profiles of high-powered people and you can read a variety of ways to “get it all done.”
I think part of the problem is how we as a society approach our lives and specifically our tasks. We think there is this “place” that we can get to and in that place there is nothing to do. There is no way that we can get to a place where there is nothing to do, it doesn’t exist people! There is an endless array of things to be taken care of. If it’s not work, it’s projects around the house, errands to run, etc. etc.
This is something I’ve been wrestling with in regard to my work. I am constantly “busy.” I have “work to do” all the time. My wife is sick of me telling her I have things that I need to get done. Just recently–literally in the past few weeks–I’ve begun to think and approach my tasks with a mentality of “there will always be work to do.” I will never reach a place or time where I have everything done. This is a massive shift in my mentality towards work. Granted it’s in its nacent stages for me and may not seem like a huge leap for many, but to go through your whole life with the nagging feeling that there are projects out there that need to be completed and realize that no matter how hard you try to get them all done and get to the “place” where you have everything done… it is just not possible.
In the midst of this pressing feeling to get everything done people inevitably miss out on important events and happenings. I don’t need to list them here, but if you have small children you know what I mean. If you think about it this way, “your work will still be there tomorrow and the day after that” you can feel liberated and free yourself from the stress and burden of “getting it all done.” It’s a somewhat Buddhist approach I think in that “things are as they are.” The stress and anxiety you have over your life is not being generated by your life. You are creating the stress and anxiety.
The day you do have everything done is the day you ceast to exist. Frankly I can wait for that day to come.